Beth Osmer

Self-Hatred and Addiction


noun  ha·tred  \ˈhā-trəd\

Often, addiction begins with an urge to smother or suppress evil feelings. You want to feel better. You want to be numb to the problems that plague you. These addictions stem from feelings. When you are struggling with addiction, the easiest thing to do is turn the anger and frustration back on yourself. Looking in the mirror and pointing the finger back at yourself. Your first impulse is wrong. You can’t keep self-hate buried deep inside of you for long. In due time, it will re-surface and it will do so in ways that you not only can’t predict, but you’ll feel helpless and trapped.


Addiction is an escape mechanism of the mind. The mind will cling to anything that will offer a way out of the pain it suffers.At the core of addiction there are thoughts triggered by self-hate: ‘I am nothing,’ ‘I do not belong,’ ‘I am insignificant,’ ‘I am unlovable,’ ‘I am worthless,’ ‘I do not deserve love.’ To disprove them one by one, we must search within our lives and our relationships and find the evidence to the contrary. You can find the goodness in you in all the actions that you’ve performed in your life.

You must learn how to love yourself before you can stop your destructive behaviors. It is important to love yourself, respect yourself, and not engage in these dark thoughts lurking below the surface. You are your biggest advocate. Before healing can begin, hatred must go the wayside. Learning to be nice to yourself can be the hardest thing you’ve ever done, but it’s necessary to recovery. Believe it or not, you can change and heal a lifetime of sad, negative thinking through mindfulness.

Sometimes it is hard to fix a problem until you see it exists. Addiction is a craving and it is an escape from pain. For a path away from addiction and self-hate, mindfulness and meditation can be the key to an escape from the suffering that addiction causes. Be good to yourself. Do not sabotage your health and happiness. And always remember you are not alone on this path to recovery.

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